What does safe, sane and consensual mean anyway? When you submit to a dominant, it is the dominant’s responsibility to make sure that you will not be harmed in a way you did not intend. When you play with a Professional Dominatrix, you are taking a huge risk. You do not know the person, you are going into a stranger’s facility or home, and you are expected to fully submit to this person. You need to be certain that you are protected and not taken advantage of in a negative or harmful way. You should only be taken advantage of in the best possible ways!

The environment and playtime should be safe. In my dungeon, all items handled during playtime are cleaned with bleach and water or a hospital brand cleaning solution. The floors are cleaned after every session. You will never be left in a position for an extended period of time that could damage your joints or nerves. You may not be safe from me grabbing your balls and twisting, but you will be safe otherwise!

Sane does not imply we won’t get crazy. Part of BDSM is letting go of our inhibitions and living our fantasies. But I have no desire to be held responsible for a serious injury, which means one of us has to keep an eye on reality. You can let go of your sanity, but I’ll be checking in to make sure you are safe. Sane also means that I respect your personal life and confidentiality. Once the session is over, unless you request that I contact you for additional needs, your personal life is respected.

Consensual means that we agree upon the type of play, but don’t think that I won’t try to expand your horizons! You will constantly be pushed to new levels, but if you have hard lines or if you say your safe word, I will honor your request. For a little while anyway!

Our session together should be a positive experience. Although we are creating a fantasy together, safety must not be forgotten.

You must be interested in BDSM and the role of a submissive.

Always be sober when attending a session.

Never attend a session on an empty stomach.

Before the session, we will discuss the following points:

• Things you want to do during the session. Please note that I do not do anything that can result in severe injury, permanent marks or sexually transmitted disease or anything that is considered prostitution.
• Where to draw the limits—that is, how far we can go without it becoming unsafe. Disabilities, illnesses and any other things that I should be aware of. If pain is going to occur, it should be “good” pain, never “bad” pain, so keep me informed.
• Any bad experiences that you may have had in the past and things that you do not like/do not want to happen.
• I will also assign a safe word which is generally “red” unless you already have a word selected. You can use the safe word at anytime to stop the current activity. It is your responsibility to use a safe word if you notice anything that may cause danger (for example, feeling dizzy or faint).